tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post4870731882430312254..comments2024-03-29T15:43:54.557+08:00Comments on Tony White - Graffiti: Strokes and disciplineTony Whitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-77163396815585751322010-10-25T04:35:18.789+08:002010-10-25T04:35:18.789+08:00> Come back with a counter offer and test her
...<i><br />> Come back with a counter offer and test her <br />> negotiation skills<br /><br />Zbig - "I will do A & C if you do B & D".<br /></i><br /><br />cool :)<br />will give it a try when an opportunity comes :)<br /><br />and now for something completely different: I'd like to know what's your take on superstitions? I got an impression they mask something (what?) in people.<br /><br />cheers,<br />ZbigZbighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10828241285872286311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-82238644642781360152010-10-23T20:19:50.892+08:002010-10-23T20:19:50.892+08:00Yes, a mob stopped by his home. It would have depe...Yes, a mob stopped by his home. It would have depended what club he joined. A rival is a big no no. That's like betraying your country. All academic as he signed a new 5 year deal at united. <br />I think you should go to a derby footie match in the uk one day. You'd love the transactions.Kahlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500615451909999365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-17047973676398244542010-10-23T14:46:47.820+08:002010-10-23T14:46:47.820+08:00I wondered if you would drop in this Friday Kahles...I wondered if you would drop in this Friday Kahless after a Bacardi or two.<br /><br />I some the fans threatened to kill Wayne Rooney if he transfered clubs! These people must take there footy seriously!!<br /><br />GraffitiTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-39392490038518874802010-10-23T08:35:07.900+08:002010-10-23T08:35:07.900+08:00Hi Graffiti,
Popping by for my usual friday eve h...Hi Graffiti,<br /><br />Popping by for my usual friday eve hello. <br /><br />Your post makes sense to me. I am guessing that you can probably guess from the style of disciplining what the quality and quantity of positive strokes are going to be from most of the parents.<br /><br />K.Kahlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500615451909999365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-77104108878672121682010-10-22T09:16:52.907+08:002010-10-22T09:16:52.907+08:00Hi Zbig,
I agree withdrawl and abandonment are da...Hi Zbig,<br /><br />I agree withdrawl and abandonment are damaging techniques of discipline to use but they work so I guess they will continue to be.<br /><br />Your little 5 year old sounds like quite a little negotiator. She may do well in the commericial world when she grows up.<br /><br />She makes an offer, "You do "A" and I will do "B".<br /><br />Come back with a counter offer and test her negotiation skills<br /><br />Zbig - "I will do A & C if you do B & D".<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />TonyTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-13363814231315651842010-10-22T04:48:14.425+08:002010-10-22T04:48:14.425+08:00What you give as examples of physical and emotiona...What you give as examples of physical and emotional ways of disciplining is appalling to me; I understand that there are people who use it but how can someone use the friggin "withdrawal" or "abandonment" techniques? It's over my head :(<br /><br />After this "intro" I can tell you that I agree with this entry and it makes sense to me as a general model but there are situations I don't know what to think of. E.g. my daughter, 5, once was telling me about her kindergarten friend and she said something like <i>"Her parents punish her sometimes like she is not allowed to watch Tom and Jerry for a whole week. You can use such punishment on me, too."</i> It seemed to me like she had to few negative strokes, or maybe she wanted to somehow get on par with her friend, and she was encouraging me "c'mon old man, don't be shy and give me some punishment". So I can guess that disciplinig her at that moment would be a positive stroke? haha :)<br /><br />And one more thing I am curious of your comment - she sometimes says things like "do as I wish <i>(give me a candy, let me stay up etc.)</i> or else I don't do you a favor <i>(teach you a new song, draw a princess for you)</i>".<br />I don't want to either yield nor say "your offer/threat doesn't mean much to me" - so what in your opinion would be close to optimal way of dealing with this?<br /><br />regards,Zbighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10828241285872286311noreply@blogger.com