tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post6260853724759071155..comments2024-03-29T15:43:54.557+08:00Comments on Tony White - Graffiti: Introjection in the therapy processTony Whitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-18189834004381214012010-09-06T08:52:40.915+08:002010-09-06T08:52:40.915+08:00I agree Anon,
We are not clones of our parents. Th...I agree Anon,<br />We are not clones of our parents. The introjection into the Parent ego state represents only one third of our personality. Our Adult ego state allows us to make choices on behaviour that are different from the introjections and the Child ego state decisions are unique from the parental introjections as well.<br /><br />But the potential is alawys there with such introjections<br /><br />TonyTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-52908713696396556472010-09-06T03:19:52.091+08:002010-09-06T03:19:52.091+08:00I don't necessarily agree that the children in...I don't necessarily agree that the children in the photo won't wear a helmet because their mother (I presume) is not wearing a helmet. My mother and step-father are/were both smokers and alcoholics and I have never smoked and am not an alcholoic. <br />I do agree that I have internalized the voice of my therapist in both positive and negative ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-17110023582671269652010-09-04T09:53:57.529+08:002010-09-04T09:53:57.529+08:00Why don't you ask him Harriet?
TonyWhy don't you ask him Harriet?<br /><br />TonyTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-74989841465522125732010-09-04T07:46:02.905+08:002010-09-04T07:46:02.905+08:00Maybe he does. I wonder what it could be.Maybe he does. I wonder what it could be.harriethttp://harrietmwelch.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-78343885033385220302010-09-03T20:05:42.015+08:002010-09-03T20:05:42.015+08:00Yes KYLady,
One would expect the process of intro...Yes KYLady,<br /><br />One would expect the process of introjection to occur much more when there is face to face contact. So much more unconscious information is acquired when there is face to face. <br /><br />Take accents for example. People who live with each other over time start to talk like each other and thus you get different accents in different areas. This could be seen to be introjection. Nobody does this consciously, it is unconsciously acquired.<br /><br />Skype I think is a huge advance for the internet compared to chat or email in terms of people's ability to communicate via the internet. Certainly from a counselling point of view it is. So introjection would be seen to occur more with skype.<br /><br />TonyTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-21404722336876816722010-09-03T19:49:16.507+08:002010-09-03T19:49:16.507+08:00I am curious - do you think the degree of introjec...I am curious - do you think the degree of introjection is greater when contact is face-to-face? Could we expect less introjection if people only communicate via phone or Internet? If communicating via Internet, would video technology such as Skype increase introjection in comparison to text chat or email?KYLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08386201292445132711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-37063832360617266472010-09-03T19:41:21.830+08:002010-09-03T19:41:21.830+08:00Maybe your therapist has a reason for saying that ...Maybe your therapist has a reason for saying that Harriet.<br /><br />tonyTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-80485578617099094772010-09-03T19:16:36.641+08:002010-09-03T19:16:36.641+08:00Which is exactly why I isolate myself - to stay aw...Which is exactly why I isolate myself - to stay away from all of those people. It makes perfect sense to me, but my therapist says it isn't good.harriethttp://harrietmwelch.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-12574883316179823232010-09-03T12:16:21.377+08:002010-09-03T12:16:21.377+08:00Hello KYLady,
I will agree with you that the chil...Hello KYLady,<br /><br />I will agree with you that the children will not wear helmets when they grow up and I also agree with you that such helmets are stupid.<br /><br />The children will introject the non helmet wearing behviour and thus not wear the helmet,<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />GraffitiTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-32182609807577980302010-09-03T12:12:55.605+08:002010-09-03T12:12:55.605+08:00Hello Harriet,
i think it is safe to say that the ...Hello Harriet,<br />i think it is safe to say that the fewer people you relate to that display those qualities then the less imapct they will have. If the therapist is the only one then the impact of that single relationship is going to be minimal.<br /><br />From what you describe it would seem that there has been introjection by you of your therapist. Good for you<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />TonyTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-47360834942830581832010-09-02T19:18:20.152+08:002010-09-02T19:18:20.152+08:00*Giggles**Giggles*roseshttp://mymindurplace.blogstream.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-54882959819003723032010-09-02T18:57:24.893+08:002010-09-02T18:57:24.893+08:00Now Roses, insults will get you no where!
Well ma...Now Roses, insults will get you no where!<br /><br />Well maybe the odd one or two might my Aussie friend<br /><br />GraffitiTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-74935476575747830792010-09-02T18:56:05.912+08:002010-09-02T18:56:05.912+08:00Hello kenoath,
Yes it seems true to say that ther...Hello kenoath,<br /><br />Yes it seems true to say that therapy is not easy, even with guidelines from Carl.<br /><br />Psychotherapy the difficult profession. <br /><br />Good title for a book that!<br /><br />However I would say that when i go to work each day i don't feel that it is difficult but also it is not easy like eating ice cream.<br /><br />I will have to muse on that one some more<br /><br />graffitiTony Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034697658099080220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-81761471356772759992010-09-02T10:08:11.561+08:002010-09-02T10:08:11.561+08:00Tony asked: "Will these children wear helmets...Tony asked: "Will these children wear helmets in the future?" I predict they will not. They see the adult riding the bike does not wear a helmet and assume that when they are old enough, they won't have to wear a stupid helmet either.KYLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08386201292445132711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-21457054332038679492010-09-02T08:46:23.307+08:002010-09-02T08:46:23.307+08:00I also admire and love the work of Carl Rogers.The...I also admire and love the work of Carl Rogers.Therapy isnt easy and even with Carl's guidelines dealing with confrontation has its honest moments.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-61939927893197309582010-09-02T07:59:22.484+08:002010-09-02T07:59:22.484+08:00Well, you do kind of rub off onto others you know?...Well, you do kind of rub off onto others you know? You know... that chatty verbose kind of over the top personality of yours. It's lovely but it would be nice to get a word in every now and again.<br /><br />You tend to brighten up the day.roseshttp://mymindurplace.blogstream.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3289688322615470169.post-13514587556858384212010-09-02T07:40:33.810+08:002010-09-02T07:40:33.810+08:00I admire Carl Rogers, and I believe that the three...I admire Carl Rogers, and I believe that the three qualities of which he speaks are very important in a therapist. But what if that is the only person in the client's life who displays those qualities towards the client? How can one person overcome all of the other people who frequently don't show empathy, unconditional positive regard, and genuineness?<br /><br />I find that my therapist is in my head frequently when I am making choices, and I suppose that is the introjection. For example, I was trying to decide whether or not to take a writing workshop, and frankly I was anxious about signing up and having to share my writing with others. Anxious about receiving and giving feedback/criticism, etc. But then I thought, "J, my therapist, won't like it if I don't sign up because I'm anxious and I'll have to tell him about it and see his disappointment." (Even though he probably would never openly show disappointment, he would just encourage me.)Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151061142781327531noreply@blogger.com