Sunday, August 28, 2011

Annalynn life script currency analysis

Results

Uniqueness ++
One & Only +++
Feelings +
Power +
Reverse Status +
Sex
Beauty
Pied Piper
Booze +
Food +
Violence
Money
Words ++
Drugs

Analysis

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You are quite unique Annalynn as this is quite an unusual set of results that you provide. The main thing I can say about it is that it could be reflective of disordered attachment. I know you a little bit but not a lot so I will have to speak more generally.

Research shows that children who grow up in a monomatric family will tend to have singular attachments in adulthood. This could be seen to represent the script currency of one and only and uniqueness. Especially the quality of the exclusion of others. Children who grow up in more polymatric families will have a more diverse set of attachments in adulthood.

In terms of psychological games this could result in what are called exclusion games. These are played the best of all by teenage girls. Those who establish peer groups and then keep some others out of them. This is not saying that you do such things just that you would be hypersensitive to such behaviour.

Because of the singular attachment there could develop problems with loyalty, betrayal and so forth, including exclusion games as mentioned before.

3 competing women

Of course there is nothing wrong or unhealthy about having singular attachments. From a psychological point of view if the needs for human contact are met in one or two attachments then there is no problem. Others usually have more attachments to meet those needs but as long as the needs are being meet then there is not a psychological problem.

The main danger is you put all your eggs in one basket. If the primary attachment figure dies or moves away then you may be left bereft of other attachments.

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Saturday, August 27, 2011

Kahless script currency analysis

Results

One and only ++
Reverse status ++
Drugs ++
Booze ++

Analysis


Booze and drugs

Games: alcoholic, cops & robbers
Psychosexual stage: Oral
Lifestyle/occupation: Gourmet, wine taster, narc, temperance league, junkie
Illnesses: Gastrointestinal, oral problems
Therapist: Addiction counselling
Personality: Antisocial, schizoid, narcissistic
Issues: Can be more severe in terms of life threatening, despair rather than depression

Dont look


Tends to result from pre-verbal quite early problems with the primary attachment figure. Primary attachment figures may be emotionally absent in some way.

May have a tendency to move to a position of non life if not obviously self destructive. Stroke deprivation can result when the individual enters periods of incapacitation (non life) which may last many months.

Possibility of openly self destructive behaviour with the use of alcohol and drugs but also by other means as well. Possible suicidal urges.

Smoker
The sophistication of smoking Peter Styvestant thins.


Quite amenable to psychotherapy but needs to find a good attachment figure in a therapist. If achieved then considerable psychological gains can result but it takes time.

Needs to structure life such that social isolation does not result even though there maybe a constant pull to that position.

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Linda life script currency analysis

Results

Uniqueness +++
One and Only na
Tears and Feelings na
Sex + 
Violence n/a 
Pied Piper n/a
Drugs n/a
Booze n/a
Food +
Power na
Reverse Status ++
Words +++
Money ++
Beauty ++


Analysis

Words
Games: Psychiatry, Greenhouse
Psychosexual stage: Anal or possible oral
Lifestyle/occupation: Lawyer, politician, writer, journalist, orator, salesman, psychotherapist, debater
Illnesses: Elective mutism, migraines, neck/shoulder pain,
Therapist: Intellectual therapies are attractive
Personality: Obsessive compulsive, paranoid


Ladies in raincoats

Issues:
These people are sometimes said to be “Dead from the neck down”. They retreat to the safety of thinking and thus there can be a mind body split. Out of touch with their body and thus one can have eating disorders or various forms of self harming. Out of touch with what their body is saying and thus detached from part of the Free Child.

Retreat to intellectualisation so as to hide from feelings (at least some of the painful ones).

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Need to access the Free Child in therapy. The Free Child has gone into hiding for some very good reason and accessing it will bring up those reasons which may be quite distressing.

Body therapies might be an idea to deal with the mind body split. Physical contact needed as there may also be a history of prolonged stroke deprivation.

If it is a reflection of oral stage issues there could be obvious suicidal or self destructive impulses or more subliminal self destuctive impulses displayed through such things as alcohol abuse, chronic cigarette smoking or severe eating problems.

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Friday, August 26, 2011

Crocus life script currency analysis

Results

Uniqueness ++
One & Only +
Feelings +
Power +++
Reverse Status
Sex +
Beauty +
Pied Piper
Booze ++
Food ++
Violence
Money ++
Words +
Drugs ++

Analysis

Power
Games: Cops & robbers, rapo
Psychosexual stage: Anal
Lifestyle/occupation: Politics, examiners, critics, the ‘boss’, police, doctors, psychotherapists
Therapist: Supervisor-supervisee disputes, industrial mediation
Personality: Paranoid, Antisocial
Issues: Control, penis envy, dependency.


Woman with balloons
Rapo is a power based game



The life script is lived out via power in relationships with others. This is what will become the issue in relationships and the means by which psychological games in relationships are played out.

In the winner’s life script the power is used for the benefit of self and others. In the loser life script, power will leave the individual with dysfunctional relationships and in an unhealthy state of mind.

Powerful lady

The Adapted Child ego state will seek the power position in relationships and the Free Child will crave dependency in relationships. Therapeutic goal is to get to the dependency and have the client satisfy the craving for the powerless position in relationships.

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Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Life script currency

People can live out the same life script but using different currencies. The ‘thing’ you use to live out your life script can differ but there is still the same life script out come.

Eric Berne proposed three script outcomes

WINNER’S SCRIPT:

Someone who gets where he intends to go and has a good time doing it.

In a Winner’s script the strokes are positive - they are highly charged and the ending is pleasant.

Eric Berne describes a Winner as someone who accomplishes his declared purpose, and does so from an I’m OK You’re OK position.

NON-WINNER’S SCRIPT:

The non-winner’s script is Banal. It has no highs or lows, and is based on the philosophy of “at least....”.

This script includes both positive and negative strokes, and neither are of great intensity.

The profile of this type of script is - Work Hard. Play it Safe. Live life along the lines of the greatest majority. Put up with things. Aim for the middle of the road.

The formula is to avoid exciting situations or risky endeavours.

To avoid uncertainty, the people with this type of script will operate more from the Adult ego state and less from the creative Child ego state.

Mom & son

LOSER’S SCRIPT:

This can be a high energy script, and it can often end in tragedy.

Strokes in this script are often negative.

The ending of the losers script is predictable and usually unpleasant.

The disastrous outcome can range from less severe to most severe.

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Each of these can be lived out using different currencies. Below is a questionnaire to discover your script currency.

Script Currency 001

If you wish to complete I will show you what are the features of your script currency.

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The suicidal process

In my book I discuss the seven main types of suicide decisions these being

If you don’t change I will kill myself
If things get too bad I will kill myself
I will show you even if it kills me
I will get you to kill me
I will kill myself by accident
I will almost die (over and over) to get you to love me
I will kill myself to hurt you

I recently wrote an article on the suicide note left by Adolf Hitler, here.


In the press there is currently a lot being said about events in Libya and the fate of Muammar Qaddafi.

Jumper


These types of leaders provide some good insight into the nature of the suicidal person and how the life script progresses to its final conclusion. High profile political and military leaders who manoeuvre themselves into a position where they have no way left to turn. The difference between these and others is their moves and decisions get highly publicised and are the content of detailed analysis by historians. So one can get a much more complete understanding of what they did to end up at the point of suicide.

All these people at some point must violate the rights of large numbers of people which usually also involves killing large numbers of people. Once done then it is fairly safe to say that he has made the early decision of

1. If things get too bad I will kill myself, or
2. I will get you to kill me

These individuals would know that as soon as they do that then their life is now under significant threat from those on the other side of the political fence. They would know this prior to ordering such killings. They would also know that politics is a very fickle thing and that political power can change quickly. Prior to ordering such mistreatment they would know these two things.

Mask man

It seems safe to say that the situation these people voluntarily entered into indicates they are suicidal in some way. They are voluntarily behaving in such away that it is quite likely they will end up dead by either their own hand or by others and not be natural causes. They are voluntarily behaving in such a way that it is likely their life will be shortened which one could argue is a suicidal act.

With Hitler it was
If things get too bad I will kill myself

and he killed himself

With Saddam Hussein it was
I will get you to kill me

and he got the state to kill him.

With Muammar Qaddafi we will find out what happens. If things progress where his political power is finally gone completely then he is left in the position to carry out the final scene of his suicidal life script. It is very likely that he will die by his own hand or others and not of natural causes.

Hand stand

Each of us on this planet have our own field of influence. We live in a community of some kind whether that be one or two friends, a family, a small community or an entire nation. From a psychological point of view there is no difference between these people. The person who kills his wife in DV (where the death penalty exists) to the person who kills thousands in his own country.

Psychologically there is no difference they are simply constructing their life circumstances such that the early suicide decision can be carried out in the end. There is much hype surrounding powerful political leaders that one tends to forget they are just an individual. Once upon a time he was a little boy with his mother and father who did whatever they did and he made a suicide decision early in life. He then sets about constructing life circumstances such that his suicide life script is played out. That can involve one or two others or millions of others, but psychologically there is no difference between the two.

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Sunday, August 21, 2011

The three C's of relationship

3 C's of relationship

Two types of power struggles in relationships

Compete parent

1. Competing for the parent position in the relationship

Compete child.

2. Competing for the child position in relationships

Walking woman

The wall of trivia in relationships. The two parties talk about stuff, argue about stuff or do stuff. They can even go to counselling and talk about stuff. This allows them to get lost in trivia so they can avoid to intimate contact which many (all) of us find frightening.

Wall of trivia

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