For small feelings
1. Child ego state experiences the feeling
2. Adult becomes aware of the feeling
3. Adult decision to drop feeling
For large feelings
1. Child ego state experiences the feeling
2. Adult becomes aware of the feeling
3. Child expresses feeling the number of times needed
4. Adult decision to drop feeling (May need two chair)
Barriers to dropping feeling
The racket value of the feeling
The strength of its connection to a script decision
Secondary gains associated with it.
Graffiti
Sometime, could you please explain what the "racket value of the feeling" means?
ReplyDeleteIs there guidelines to how many times the child needs to express a feeling? I sometimes think that expressing the feeling will never end and my
ReplyDeleteT tells me that I spent years of my life not expressing them (initially because I was punished by others for them and then by myself) and so isn't surprised how often I cycle back to expressing the same feelings. I want to work on barriers to dropping a feeling and he thinks I should work on expressing the feeling so sometimes we are at cross purposes.
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