Already mentioned has been the role of temperament in racket development and how the use of emotions in parenting can also effect the development of certain rackets.
However one of the more powerful ways of fostering a racket is with strokes. When a child displays a certain feeling how do the parents respond with their stroking patterns. Do the strokes they give foster the feeling being displayed or tend to hinder its development.
This is reasonably easy to ascertain. One simply recalls when they were young and how they observed the parents responding. See the chart below:
The patterns of stroking others does not stop in childhood but we are constantly being stroked in certain ways for the emotions we display. In many instances both parties are unaware of what is happening as it is unconscious communication. Indeed the vast majority of human communication is unconscious as this diagram shows.
To ascertain these conscious and unconscious stroking patterns with those in your current life one simply changes a few questions. See the diagram below:
Of course this is a two way process. Whist you are being influenced by the stroking patterns of others you are also influencing them in exactly the same way. To gain some insight into this one can answer another series of questions: