Monday, February 22, 2010

Question time


Don't exist interview questions designed to elicit how the person sees self ending up in life.


What happens to people like you?

If you keep going the same way you are now where will you be in 5, 10 or 15 years?

How do you think you may die and at what age?

What will it say on you tombstone?

You are watching your funeral, who is there and what are they saying?


Anyone got an answer that may go in my book.



Some know considerable detail about the ending of their life. what will he end up like?



Cheers


Graffiti

17 comments:

  1. I hope that you get some replies Tony.

    k

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  2. I do too Kenoath but I am not holding my breath,
    but that is OK as it is asking people to self disclose in a fairly intimate way

    Graffiti

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  3. Intimate? Are these questions intimate? Why?

    Tony, there are no people quite like me but if there were... hmm...
    People like me excel in everything we do. We achieve to whatever level we want to but we have to be very aware of the fact that we get bored very easily. The challenge of change/variety then, is an important ingredient in anything and everything. If we can see it in anyway; be it imagination; being modelled by another; suggested to us via media of some kind, etc... we or others around us can/will achieve it – where there’s a will, there’re most definitely numerous ways.

    I think we tend to be lonely simply because we are changeable and not everyone can handle that element. I must admit that disappointment can kill any life in me. I can sit out there on the board waiting for the next wave for only so long before the ocean gets me down. If I get too bored I think I run out of the emotional impetus to propel me along – very dangerous – best to come into shore (even if it means hours, days, months or even years of boring maintenance or re-skilling) till the surf picks up.

    In 5 years I will be a therapist of some kind, skilled at Remote viewing, and an even older granny with a wrinklier grin. Maybe my wrinkly old grin will be a tad toothless too. Aww – that’s too cute!

    In 10 years I will be a better therapist, even more skilled at Remote viewing, and be travelling all over the place. I’ll probably have false teeth (if my toothless 5 year plan happens) and be talking a bit funny until I get used to them.

    By the time 15 years comes around... holy smokes Tony! I’ll be 63 years old! I’ll be a little bit like you and doing stuff that you do I hope. Remote viewing will have a totally different name and use at that time and I like the idea of being a trainer of some kind. Yeah... I think I’d be good at that by that age.

    I don’t know when I die nor do I wish to guess when that will be. I want to die when I can’t dream of the next year or so – when I can’t see much in the future anymore. I hope that’s not too old!

    Tombstone? Roses (real name) was here!

    There will be people who I didn’t really know but thought I did. There will be people I loved, love, like, disliked, worked with, worked for, travelled with, laughed with, cried with, family, friends, enemies, and competition, friends of my friends and family... and enemies...

    I don’t know who’ll be there – maybe they’ll just microwave us to dust and flush us down the loo or something by then. I don’t know. What if someone has found the fountain of youth and we can buy it in a facial mask or something? What if we get shot out into space because we’ve run out of room or something? I don’t know.

    I think I’m a tad too busy to think about that right now. I would like to be like my sister – go to sleep and wake up dead. I like that.

    Is that what you’re looking for? Cause there’s heaps more where that came from. *Giggles* Then again... you could always flush it if you don’t like it.

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  4. Actually, after my sisters funeral, I don't think it matters who's at mine. It will be nice for people who hated me or loved me and everything inbetween, to have the opportunity to deal with not having me around to aim all that stuff at anymore.

    Gosh Tony! Death is so facinating don't you think?

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  5. Ohh! And I forgot to tell you Tony. My hubby turns 50 today.

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  6. Hi Roses,
    that is a good answer than you for that. they are intimate questions in that they are quite personal and not something that you would mention over the table at a dinner party

    Happy burthday to hubby

    Graffiti

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  7. Oh! So I did that wrong? Cause if someone asked me over a dinner table, I would answer their question just as I have done here. I don't understand what's so personal about telling someone about what i might be thinking at the time. So, i didn't get personal enough?

    Sorry about that then.

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  8. From Annalynn


    What happens to people like you?

    They suffer every day until the day that they find the strength to kill themselves once and for all. Then and only then will they be set free from all the pain and misery in this world.

    If other people are suffering the same emotional pain or worse than I currently am, this world is a very cruel place and is not worthy of my presence. I can't live in a world where people do violence to one another. It's not right.

    And I can only hope that my friends and family would understand this.

    It is devastating to think that my death would probably cause them unbearable pain. But, I think that's a sacrifice that I may be willing to make.


    If you keep going the same way you are now where will you be in 5, 10 or 15 years?

    Dead. But one can only hope.


    How do you think you may die and at what age?

    Suicide, with in the next few years. They say that the brain is fully developed after you reach 25? I'm 22 now. I'll do my best to live it out until 25, but no promises.

    I'm reminded of a quote by Doug Stanhope, “Life is like a movie, if you've sat through more than half of it and its sucked every second so far, it probably isn't gonna get great right at the end and make it all worthwhile. None should blame you for walking out early.”


    What will it say on you tombstone?

    I don't want my tombstone to say anything. I am no different from the people that die each day and are buried in unmarked graves because no one knows who they are. I am no better than they might have been. 


    You are watching your funeral, who is there and what are they saying?

    I have thought about this on many occasions. I would not want a funeral. But that is really not my choice to make. A funeral is for the living, not for the dead. I want the people who know me to have the opportunity to mourn in a healthy way and find closure. My mother and father a few friends would probably attend. I don't know what they would say.

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  9. What happens to people like you?

    Statistically they get emphasema or lung cancer

    If you keep going the same way you are now where will you be in 5, 10 or 15 years?

    Doing much what I am doing right now.

    How do you think you may die and at what age?

    Cant call. I had loved ones that die suddenly and unexpectedly and also ones that have died slowly. I think quick and unexpectedly. Sounds better. Having done a lot of research into my ancestry, old age runs in the family. Even in the 1800's my ancestors were living into their 90s. What I know with certainty is my loved ones will die first.

    What will it say on you tombstone?

    I read a book which asked this question in my 20s and I thought long and hard and it just remained blank. So probably no tombstone, just a cremation.

    You are watching your funeral, who is there and what are they saying?

    No-one. Except maybe a priest recanting the usual prayers.

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  10. Hi Roses,
    You would make for a very interesting dinner party guest Roses,

    you will have to come to my next dinner party

    Graffiti

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  11. Thanks for your answers Kahless,

    Seems so 'uneventful'.

    My Child feeling reaction I get to you some times is a great sense of 'stuckness'. Certainly the repetition compulsion.

    Graffiti

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  12. Yes Graf,

    I think stuckness is a good observation. Stuckness in certain area's of my life. For sertain periods of my life. Funny really I would say I have seen repetitions of stuckness...

    For example

    onset of depression triggered by grief (or loss, not necesssarily of human loss), then stuckness, seek therapy, = worse depression, quit therapy = one year later depression lifted. Talking about things just spirals me downwards. Then I climb out.

    Funny really, a lot of positive feedback I get at work is about my ability to adapt to change! I am seen as someone who can develop and adapt.

    Yes I get stuck - but few people notice.

    on my mind for some reason - forwards, backwards, cha cha cha! (ever done ballroom dancing?)

    Ooops, I am inebriated!!!!

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  13. hello Kahless

    Its always good to get your comments when you have had a few shots.

    interesting comments about your reaction to therapy.

    If you want to chat on Skype some time let me know

    graf

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  14. Dare I post my reply to your grim questions? I wonder, Andy, how YOU would answer your own questions!

    What happens to people like you?
    People “like me” live day to day, knowing it has to all come to an end sometime, but not really believing it ever will. Everything happens to people like me.

    If you keep going the same way you are now where will you be in 5, 10 or 15 years?
    I have a hard time seeing myself so far into the future. I never expected to live as long as I have. I’m always checking to see what’s in the immediate future, but not really paying much attention to where I am. Yesterday is completely discarded, except for photographs that remind me what use to be. I live like I’m driving on the highway in dense fog 

    How do you think you may die and at what age?
    I have imagined dying in many ways, but I think ultimately, it will be an explosion or fire that ends my world. I can’t see myself old or feeble. It could happen anytime…but not this week.

    What will it say on you tombstone?
    If I had a grave marker, it would have no epitaph and only minimal data.

    You are watching your funeral, who is there and what are they saying?
    If I could plan my funeral, everyone I care about would be there. It would be held outside on a cloudless night on the edge of a lake. It would be a party - giant bonfire, cookout, some good whiskey, kegs of beer, and live music all night long. I don’t care what anybody says – I would prefer they don’t even talk about me at all.

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  15. Hello Anon,

    thanks for answering the questions and I hope they are a benefit to you. They seem fairly clear to me.

    I am not too sure who you mean by Andy, are you meaning me.

    I will accept anonymous comments only if they are benign. If they start to get a bit more forthright and less benign then the person has to identify self or blog or the comment has to go.

    Graffiti

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  16. I am very sorry to get your name wrong - TONY - I must have had too many windows open. No more anonymous posts from me...I promise.

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  17. OK Anon, but you are welcome to keep commenting if you want

    Tony

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